Angry people want you to see how powerful they are. Loving people want you to see how powerful YOU are. William Weatherford (Red Eagle).
On my flight back, I was awoken from a pretty good sleep (considering it was midair ✈️ ) by my chair shaking.
I looked behind me for the source, & a woman behind me asked, ‘What do you want?’
As I replied that I had been woken up, she stood up & shouted, ‘You try closing the table then’
I looked sleepily at the closed table in front of me, & replied (maybe not the best answer!), ‘It is closed?’
The woman then got out of her seat & towered over mine to shout a monologue of words (I can’t remember most of what she said because
1: I was half in dreamland.
2: She put my nervous system fully into flight mode ✈️ )
… but her last words were ‘Don’t ever speak to me again’ which I remember confusedly saying, ‘But you woke me up?’ 😂 🙈
My heart was racing… other passengers also woken up by the interaction seemed to be throwing sympathetic looks my way.
My dreamy imagination created a fantastic image of crumpling this woman up like a piece of paper and throwing her out of the window 😂
Another response would have been to shout back, but instead, I found myself thinking ‘What would Mooji do?’ ‘What would Alva do?’ ‘What would my Goddxx self do?’ & the only answer I got was… ‘Absolutely nothing’.
It took a while to get back to sleep & stop going over smug replies, & longer not to respond to others later that day from a place of defence triggered by that interaction…
At the border later, I saw her shouting at someone who she perceived to have pushed in front of her (maybe reality, but the epic queue system makes pushing in near impossible?).
But when I saw this post by Red Eagle I understood… she must be navigating so much anger… it wasn’t about me, or the man she was ‘pushed in’ by… it was about her need to be powerful (or a belief that she was powerless).
I still don’t know if I could have come up with a ‘better’ (or funnier?) response (it doesn’t matter!), because her perception was stuck on the anger dial! but I do KNOW I want to empower my people not overpower them…
And that if I come from anger, I am in ‘defence’ & reaction instead of creation (same letters differently expressed!) & so instead I choose LOVE 🥰